Comparing the emotional intensity in our homes to the volume level on a radio or television is not far from the truth at all. Every home has a setting. Every heart has a dial. And how high that dial is set determines the atmosphere everyone lives in.

When the volume is set too high, the home becomes a place of continual crisis. One disagreement with your spouse, and suddenly divorce feels like the next step. A child comes home five minutes past curfew, and it turns into World War III. And behind the wheel of a car? The anger spills over without restraint.

Scripture speaks plainly to this reality in the Book of Ecclesiastes 7:9:
“Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.”

So here is an honest question worth asking: what is your volume level these days?

Some believe that raising their voice, asserting dominance, or reacting loudly is a sign of strength. Others are told that keeping calm means being weak or foolish. But what many fail to understand is this; when the volume is set too high, control is often lost. Emotions begin to dictate reactions. Words are spoken without thought. And what’s left behind is a trail of pain, fear, and resentment.

Strength is not found in volume.
Strength is found in restraint.

Fathers, every time you storm out of the house because things didn’t go your way, have you considered who is watching? Your children are learning how to handle frustration by observing you. In those moments, lessons are being taught whether you intend to teach them or not.

Mothers, when your daughters repeatedly hear you say, “All men are the same; they’re no good,” have you stopped to consider the seeds being planted? Those words may grow into mistrust, guarded hearts, and emotional walls that follow her into adulthood.

Words shape worlds.
Tone sets culture.
Behavior forms destiny.

That is why God also warns us in the Book of Psalms 37:8:
“Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret, only leads to evil.”

Turning down the volume does not mean ignoring problems. It means responding with wisdom instead of reacting with rage. It means choosing calm over chaos, thoughtfulness over impulse, and love over pride.

Destinies are being shaped every day by the words we speak, the attitudes we display, and the behaviors we model in our homes.

The dial is in your hand.
The decision is yours to make.

God bless.

At some point in life many of us are guilty of carrying secret anger; anger that is hidden, unspoken, and quietly justified in our own hearts.

Secret anger is especially dangerous. It doesn’t simply fade with time. Instead, it slowly eats away at us, replacing kindness with resentment and compassion with animosity. When it is kept buried for too long, it eventually explodes; often surprising and devastating those who thought they truly knew us. Even we can be shocked by what comes out when we try to keep the lid on for too long.

This kind of anger is subtle. It can disguise itself through clever schemes, quiet manipulation, calculated maneuvers, or outright deception. In its darkest form, unresolved anger can turn violent; manifesting as physical abuse, sexual abuse, or even murder. These are not sudden actions; they are often the end result of anger that was never addressed.

The painful truth is this: secret anger hurts the one who carries it the most.

It hides behind smiles.
It laughs at the dinner table.
It pretends everything is fine;
while it quietly simmers beneath the surface, targeting the people closest to us.

Secret anger has a long memory. It can take an event that happened ten, twenty, or even thirty years ago and quietly turn it into the foundation for a broken relationship, later labeled as “irreconcilable differences.” What was never spoken becomes what can no longer be healed.

There are two powerful practices that can help us confront and heal secret anger:

1) COMMUNICATION

In the story of the prodigal son, the older brother had been angry for years. His resentment didn’t surface immediately, it remained hidden until the younger brother returned home and was celebrated. Only then did the anger rise to the surface.

The father’s response is deeply revealing in the Gospel of Luke 15. In essence, he tells his older son: If only you had told me how you felt, if only you had shared what you needed, I would have been there for you.

Unspoken pain grows heavier with time. Communication doesn’t erase the past, but it opens the door to healing. Silence, on the other hand, allows anger to take root.

2) FORGIVENESS

Forgiveness is often misunderstood. It is not denial, weakness, or pretending nothing happened. Scripture instructs us clearly in the Book of Colossians 3:13:
“Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

Forgiveness does not excuse wrongdoing, but it releases you from being chained to it. It doesn’t just let the other person off the hook; it lets you off the hook. It creates space for peace, clarity, and forward movement in your life.

Holding onto anger may feel like protection, but in reality, it becomes a prison.

If you are carrying secret anger today, know this: healing begins when truth is brought into the light. Speak what has been buried. Release what has been poisoning your peace. You deserve freedom, not just from others but from the weight within yourself.

God bless.

When you have been abused, you don’t just carry the memories; you also carry the anger. That anger often comes from a deeper wound: the realization that no one stepped in to protect you when you needed it most. Silence can hurt just as much as the abuse itself.

Private rejection is painful enough, but when rejection happens publicly, it cuts even deeper. It exposes you. It makes you feel small, vulnerable, and worthless. Shame settles in, and sometimes it drives reactions that only deepen the pain; responses that make us feel worse about ourselves afterward. In those moments, a dangerous thought can creep in: “If they don’t see value in me, maybe I don’t have any.”

But hear this clearly: never allow someone else’s opinion to determine your worth. That is far too much power to give any human being.

Anyone who cannot see your value is dealing with their own limitation not yours. It only becomes your problem when you accept their view as truth. Rejection often has very little to do with who you are and everything to do with what others are incapable of seeing, hearing, or understanding. Many people reject what they cannot discern. They believe a lie, and the real danger is when we begin to believe it too.

Until you learn to care for yourself, it becomes nearly impossible to genuinely care for others. You may try to imitate love, compassion, or kindness, but deep down, the emptiness remains. We can only give to others from the well of our own self-esteem; and when that well is dry, everything feels forced.

This is why abuse is so destructive. Many abusers do not truly hate their victims; they hate themselves. That self-loathing overflows onto those closest to them. Hurt people often hurt people; not because their actions are justified, but because they are broken inside.

The Apostle Paul writes in Book of Ephesians 5:28:
“He who loves his wife loves himself.”

That verse invites a deeper question, one worth serious reflection: What happens when a person does not love himself?

The answer explains much of the pain we see in the world.

But here is the truth that stands above all others: God sees you. He knows what you’ve endured. He loves you; not conditionally, not cautiously, but completely. And He has a good and purposeful plan for your life, even after everything you’ve been through.

When you can truly accept that truth, not just hear it but believe it, your healing can begin.

You are not forgotten.
You are not worthless.
You are not defined by what was done to you.

You are seen. You are loved. And restoration is possible.

Remain blessed.

What we must wait and work for, we learn to respect. But when everything comes easily, without effort or boundaries, we often grow up feeling entitled; believing we deserve whatever we want, whenever we want it. That sense of entitlement quietly becomes a recipe for lifelong disappointment and heartache.

Some argue that discipline stifles creativity. But the truth is quite the opposite. Discipline gives creativity direction. It is those who learn to work within structure, boundaries, and rules who are able to build, sustain, and see their dreams truly flourish. Chaos does not produce greatness, order does.

Those who learn obedience early in life often develop something far more valuable later on: sensitivity to God. Obedience trains the heart to listen, to submit, and to discern right from wrong. It lays the foundation for wisdom, humility, and longevity.

Parents, if you truly love your child, there are three essential lessons you must teach them:

1) Every relationship has boundaries.
When someone says no to your advances, your advice, your influence, or your way of life; respect it. Honor their limits. Learn when to step back. Boundaries protect relationships and preserve dignity.

2) Life is built on rules.
Rules are not there to oppress us; they exist to protect us. Break them carelessly, and sooner or later, they will break you through consequences, regret, or loss.

3) Obedience has life-altering consequences.
It can lengthen your life or shorten it. If that sounds extreme, take a moment to reflect. Many lives are cut short not by accident, but by repeated disobedience, poor choices, and ignored wisdom.

The purpose of teaching obedience is not control. it is love. Scripture makes this clear in the Book of Ephesians 6:3:
“If you honor your father and mother, things will go well with thee, and you will have a long life on the earth.”

This is not just a command, it is a promise.

So parents, guardians, mentors, ask yourself honestly:
If obedience leads to well-being and long life, and you love your child, how can you do anything less than teach them?

Think about it.

God bless.