Comparing the emotional intensity in our homes to the volume level on a radio or television is not far from the truth at all. Every home has a setting. Every heart has a dial. And how high that dial is set determines the atmosphere everyone lives in.

When the volume is set too high, the home becomes a place of continual crisis. One disagreement with your spouse, and suddenly divorce feels like the next step. A child comes home five minutes past curfew, and it turns into World War III. And behind the wheel of a car? The anger spills over without restraint.

Scripture speaks plainly to this reality in the Book of Ecclesiastes 7:9:
“Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.”

So here is an honest question worth asking: what is your volume level these days?

Some believe that raising their voice, asserting dominance, or reacting loudly is a sign of strength. Others are told that keeping calm means being weak or foolish. But what many fail to understand is this; when the volume is set too high, control is often lost. Emotions begin to dictate reactions. Words are spoken without thought. And what’s left behind is a trail of pain, fear, and resentment.

Strength is not found in volume.
Strength is found in restraint.

Fathers, every time you storm out of the house because things didn’t go your way, have you considered who is watching? Your children are learning how to handle frustration by observing you. In those moments, lessons are being taught whether you intend to teach them or not.

Mothers, when your daughters repeatedly hear you say, “All men are the same; they’re no good,” have you stopped to consider the seeds being planted? Those words may grow into mistrust, guarded hearts, and emotional walls that follow her into adulthood.

Words shape worlds.
Tone sets culture.
Behavior forms destiny.

That is why God also warns us in the Book of Psalms 37:8:
“Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret, only leads to evil.”

Turning down the volume does not mean ignoring problems. It means responding with wisdom instead of reacting with rage. It means choosing calm over chaos, thoughtfulness over impulse, and love over pride.

Destinies are being shaped every day by the words we speak, the attitudes we display, and the behaviors we model in our homes.

The dial is in your hand.
The decision is yours to make.

God bless.

At some point in life many of us are guilty of carrying secret anger; anger that is hidden, unspoken, and quietly justified in our own hearts.

Secret anger is especially dangerous. It doesn’t simply fade with time. Instead, it slowly eats away at us, replacing kindness with resentment and compassion with animosity. When it is kept buried for too long, it eventually explodes; often surprising and devastating those who thought they truly knew us. Even we can be shocked by what comes out when we try to keep the lid on for too long.

This kind of anger is subtle. It can disguise itself through clever schemes, quiet manipulation, calculated maneuvers, or outright deception. In its darkest form, unresolved anger can turn violent; manifesting as physical abuse, sexual abuse, or even murder. These are not sudden actions; they are often the end result of anger that was never addressed.

The painful truth is this: secret anger hurts the one who carries it the most.

It hides behind smiles.
It laughs at the dinner table.
It pretends everything is fine;
while it quietly simmers beneath the surface, targeting the people closest to us.

Secret anger has a long memory. It can take an event that happened ten, twenty, or even thirty years ago and quietly turn it into the foundation for a broken relationship, later labeled as “irreconcilable differences.” What was never spoken becomes what can no longer be healed.

There are two powerful practices that can help us confront and heal secret anger:

1) COMMUNICATION

In the story of the prodigal son, the older brother had been angry for years. His resentment didn’t surface immediately, it remained hidden until the younger brother returned home and was celebrated. Only then did the anger rise to the surface.

The father’s response is deeply revealing in the Gospel of Luke 15. In essence, he tells his older son: If only you had told me how you felt, if only you had shared what you needed, I would have been there for you.

Unspoken pain grows heavier with time. Communication doesn’t erase the past, but it opens the door to healing. Silence, on the other hand, allows anger to take root.

2) FORGIVENESS

Forgiveness is often misunderstood. It is not denial, weakness, or pretending nothing happened. Scripture instructs us clearly in the Book of Colossians 3:13:
“Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

Forgiveness does not excuse wrongdoing, but it releases you from being chained to it. It doesn’t just let the other person off the hook; it lets you off the hook. It creates space for peace, clarity, and forward movement in your life.

Holding onto anger may feel like protection, but in reality, it becomes a prison.

If you are carrying secret anger today, know this: healing begins when truth is brought into the light. Speak what has been buried. Release what has been poisoning your peace. You deserve freedom, not just from others but from the weight within yourself.

God bless.

When you have been abused, you don’t just carry the memories; you also carry the anger. That anger often comes from a deeper wound: the realization that no one stepped in to protect you when you needed it most. Silence can hurt just as much as the abuse itself.

Private rejection is painful enough, but when rejection happens publicly, it cuts even deeper. It exposes you. It makes you feel small, vulnerable, and worthless. Shame settles in, and sometimes it drives reactions that only deepen the pain; responses that make us feel worse about ourselves afterward. In those moments, a dangerous thought can creep in: “If they don’t see value in me, maybe I don’t have any.”

But hear this clearly: never allow someone else’s opinion to determine your worth. That is far too much power to give any human being.

Anyone who cannot see your value is dealing with their own limitation not yours. It only becomes your problem when you accept their view as truth. Rejection often has very little to do with who you are and everything to do with what others are incapable of seeing, hearing, or understanding. Many people reject what they cannot discern. They believe a lie, and the real danger is when we begin to believe it too.

Until you learn to care for yourself, it becomes nearly impossible to genuinely care for others. You may try to imitate love, compassion, or kindness, but deep down, the emptiness remains. We can only give to others from the well of our own self-esteem; and when that well is dry, everything feels forced.

This is why abuse is so destructive. Many abusers do not truly hate their victims; they hate themselves. That self-loathing overflows onto those closest to them. Hurt people often hurt people; not because their actions are justified, but because they are broken inside.

The Apostle Paul writes in Book of Ephesians 5:28:
“He who loves his wife loves himself.”

That verse invites a deeper question, one worth serious reflection: What happens when a person does not love himself?

The answer explains much of the pain we see in the world.

But here is the truth that stands above all others: God sees you. He knows what you’ve endured. He loves you; not conditionally, not cautiously, but completely. And He has a good and purposeful plan for your life, even after everything you’ve been through.

When you can truly accept that truth, not just hear it but believe it, your healing can begin.

You are not forgotten.
You are not worthless.
You are not defined by what was done to you.

You are seen. You are loved. And restoration is possible.

Remain blessed.

What we must wait and work for, we learn to respect. But when everything comes easily, without effort or boundaries, we often grow up feeling entitled; believing we deserve whatever we want, whenever we want it. That sense of entitlement quietly becomes a recipe for lifelong disappointment and heartache.

Some argue that discipline stifles creativity. But the truth is quite the opposite. Discipline gives creativity direction. It is those who learn to work within structure, boundaries, and rules who are able to build, sustain, and see their dreams truly flourish. Chaos does not produce greatness, order does.

Those who learn obedience early in life often develop something far more valuable later on: sensitivity to God. Obedience trains the heart to listen, to submit, and to discern right from wrong. It lays the foundation for wisdom, humility, and longevity.

Parents, if you truly love your child, there are three essential lessons you must teach them:

1) Every relationship has boundaries.
When someone says no to your advances, your advice, your influence, or your way of life; respect it. Honor their limits. Learn when to step back. Boundaries protect relationships and preserve dignity.

2) Life is built on rules.
Rules are not there to oppress us; they exist to protect us. Break them carelessly, and sooner or later, they will break you through consequences, regret, or loss.

3) Obedience has life-altering consequences.
It can lengthen your life or shorten it. If that sounds extreme, take a moment to reflect. Many lives are cut short not by accident, but by repeated disobedience, poor choices, and ignored wisdom.

The purpose of teaching obedience is not control. it is love. Scripture makes this clear in the Book of Ephesians 6:3:
“If you honor your father and mother, things will go well with thee, and you will have a long life on the earth.”

This is not just a command, it is a promise.

So parents, guardians, mentors, ask yourself honestly:
If obedience leads to well-being and long life, and you love your child, how can you do anything less than teach them?

Think about it.

God bless.

Without wise leadership, a nation falters, an organization weakens, and even a home can fall into confusion. Direction matters. Vision matters. And wisdom at the helm can mean the difference between stability and collapse.

“Leadership” however, was never meant to stand alone.

When there are good counselors; trusted advisors, accountable board members, or sincere friends, there is safety. Wise counsel brings balance, correction, and insight that one mind alone may not see. Strength is multiplied when guidance is shared.

Scripture reminds us of this truth in Book of Proverbs 11:14–15:
“Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety. Whoever puts up security for a stranger will surely suffer harm, but he who hates striking hands in pledge is secure.”

This wisdom also speaks directly to personal decisions. Before you vouch for someone’s credit, reputation, or responsibility, take time to truly know them. Trust is valuable, and once given, it can be costly to reclaim. It is often wiser to say no in the beginning than to suffer regret later.

Refusing prematurely may feel uncomfortable, but enduring long-term consequences is far more painful. Wisdom protects not just your resources, but your peace.

Choose leaders carefully.
Seek counsel intentionally.
Guard your commitments wisely.

In doing so, you build safety not only for yourself, but for those who depend on you.

Remain blessed.

Nothing in this world is truly new. What we experience today has, in one form or another, already happened before. Patterns repeat. Seasons cycle. History moves forward, yet somehow circles back on itself.

When we pause and really think about it, we are left with an honest question: What can we point to that is completely new? How can we be certain it did not exist ages ago in another form, another culture, or another generation? Can we truly say we know or remember everything that happened in former times?

The truth is, much of the past has faded away; unwritten, unrecorded, and forgotten. And just as those before us slipped into history, so too will we. In the future, many will not remember what we said, what we built, or how we lived; except for what was recorded and passed down to the generations that come after us.

Scripture speaks directly to this reality in Book of Ecclesiastes 1:9:
“What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun.”

In this way we are not just living life, we are becoming history.

Every decision we make, every word we speak, every way we treat others is quietly writing a record of who we were. Long after we are gone, our actions will still echo; through stories, lessons, and memories carried by others.

So here is the question that truly matters:
What will your story be?

Will it be one of love or indifference?
Of faith or fear?
Of compassion or pride?
Of purpose or regret?

We may not control how long our names are remembered, but we do control how we are remembered. Live in a way that leaves wisdom behind. Choose actions that future generations can learn from. Let your life speak even when your voice is no longer heard.

Think about it.

God bless.

We were all children once; full of hope, curiosity, and dreams that felt limitless. Back then, the future seemed wide open, and believing came easily. We trusted that things would work out, that tomorrow would be brighter, and that life would somehow make sense.

But as we grow older, life happens.

Along the journey, disappointments come. Plans fall apart. Doors close. Prayers feel unanswered. And in the middle of the struggle, many begin to whisper the painful thought: “God has forgotten me.”

Yet this is a truth we must hold onto; God can never forget us, not in our pain, not in our waiting, and not in the middle of our troubles. Even when we cannot see His hand at work, His presence never leaves us. He can use anyone and any situation to lift us up at the appointed time.

But there is also a part we play.

We must choose to believe. We must work with God by trusting that the situation we are in right now is not permanent. What you are facing today is a season, not a sentence. It may feel heavy, but it will not last forever.

And here is the reminder that brings hope: the only constant thing in life is change.

Circumstances change. Seasons shift. Pain gives way to healing. Waiting turns into testimony. What looks impossible today can become tomorrow’s breakthrough.

So hold on to faith. Keep believing. Keep moving forward, even if the steps feel small. The dreams planted in you as a child were not wasted, they are only waiting for their time.

God is still writing your story.
And the chapter you are in now is not the end.

God bless.

Every person in this world carries an opinion about the right way to act and the right way to treat others. These opinions are shaped by experiences, wounds, beliefs, and sometimes by pain that has never fully healed.

Some people quietly rejoice when harm falls upon someone they consider an enemy. Others, even when deeply hurt, refuse to wish evil on anyone; not even those who have wronged them. Some turn away strangers without a second thought, while others open their doors, their hands, and their hearts, going out of their way to help people they barely know.

Each response reveals something about the condition of the heart.

No matter what opinion you hold about how a friend or an enemy deserves to be treated, there is something we must always remember: there are no do-overs in history. Words spoken, actions taken, and opportunities missed cannot be undone. But in every moment, there is always a lesson waiting to be learned.

How you treat others in this life matters more than you may realize. It shapes your character, leaves an imprint on someone else’s journey, and often determines how kindness or cruelty finds its way back to you. Life has a way of reflecting our actions; sometimes gently, sometimes painfully.

So here is simple, honest advice: have a heart.

Choose compassion when bitterness would be easier. Choose kindness when indifference feels justified. Choose grace even when no one is watching and no reward seems visible.

Treat everyone with kindness; not because they deserve it, but because you choose to walk in love. You never truly know who stands before you, what they carry, or what role they may play in your story.

Scripture reminds us of this powerful truth in Book of Hebrews 13:1–2:
“Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.”

Let your life be marked by compassion. Let your actions reflect humility. Let your legacy be one of kindness, not regret.

Because in the end, hearts are remembered long after opinions are forgotten.

God bless.

I have come to understand something powerful about life’s battles; the attacks on our minds, the near-missed breakthroughs, the addictions, distractions, bitterness, unforgiving hearts, and even the silent struggles no one knows about.

These things are not merely connected to our past mistakes or failures. They are connected to our destiny.

From the moment you were conceived, God placed a purpose inside of you. Your life was not random. Your calling was not accidental. And your future was not left to chance. Because your destiny carries weight, resistance rises against it. The closer you get to becoming who you were created to be, the louder the opposition often becomes.

The attacks are not meant to destroy you; they are meant to delay you, distract you, and discourage you from stepping into the fullness of what God has already ordained.

Every roadblock you face is evidence that there is something valuable on the other side of it.

The enemy doesn’t fight empty ground.

So the question becomes:
Will you allow the obstacles to define your journey?
Or will you recognize them for what they are… temporary barriers standing in the way of an eternal purpose?

You were never meant to stop at the roadblock. You were created to move through it.

Some seasons will require patience. Others will require courage. And some will require you to do both at the same time; pressing forward while healing, learning while walking, trusting God while still battling.

You don’t have to have everything figured out to keep moving. You just have to refuse to quit.

Choose today to stop letting fear, pain, or delay convince you that your destiny is out of reach. Rise with determination. Tear down the barriers. Keep building, healing, believing, and walking forward.

Your destiny is still alive.
Your calling is still intact.
And what God started in you, He is faithful to complete.

Choose wisely.
God bless.

Every single day of our lives, life’s tests stare us straight in the eyes. Often in ways we could never imagine. These tests don’t arrive with warnings or labels. They come in many forms: some appear good, some painful, and others downright ugly.

Most of the time, we don’t see them coming. We are caught off guard, unprepared, and confused. And perhaps the hardest part of all is this: sometimes we don’t even realize we are being tested. We mistake the test for coincidence, bad luck, or just another rough day, not knowing that a defining moment is unfolding right before us.

At some point, every person in this world will face a test they may not recognize as a test. A moment that challenges their faith, their patience, their integrity, or their hope. These moments quietly shape who we become.

So the questions arise:
How do we handle these tests?
How do we endure without breaking?
How do we emerge victorious with testimonies so powerful they awaken others to truth and hope?

There are many answers, and many experiences. Some people have faced intense trials and, by God’s grace, walked out stronger; carrying victories that speak louder than words. Others stumble, overwhelmed by the weight of the test. And tragically, some lose their way entirely along the journey.

Yet no matter how a test unfolds, shared testimonies matter. Every story of endurance, every account of survival, every victory big or small, has the power to strengthen someone else who is silently fighting their own battle today.

Life’s tests are unavoidable. You cannot run from them. You cannot hide from them.
But you can decide how you respond.

The real choice lies here:
Will the test define you, or will it refine you?
Will it defeat you, or will it develop you?

When you choose to rise daily, intentionally, and faithfully, you open the door for victory. And with every victory comes a testimony. A testimony not just for you, but for others who are searching for hope in the middle of their own trials.

So ask yourself: How do you want your story to end?

Because the tests will come.
But with faith, perseverance, and trust in God, victory can come too. When it does, your testimony will speak life to many.

God bless.